“To the extent that a community has a continuing life together we are going to be challenged at the point of our illusions about the kind of people we are. This does not mean that we intentionally seek to break the images of others. The task is always to change ourselves—to deal with that in us which prevents our going forth to meet the other.”
–Elizabeth O’Connor, Journey Inward, Journey Outward
In another one of O’Conner’s books – Our Many Selves . .
The “OTHER” in us always seems to us alien and unacceptable ; but if we allows ourselves to be aggrieved and hurt by it, then it goes into us, and we are the richer for a piece of self-knowledge. C.G. Jung